What to Read?
Tom, who is about 2 years old, is particularly fascinated by stickers. He often tears the small patterns on the stickers off and sticks them on the refrigerator or on the wall. He tears the stickers, sticks them, and tears them. He enjoys it.
In order to exercise the fine movements of his small muscles and make him have something to play with so as not to be bored, Tom’s mother began to seriously study the sticker book and wanted to choose a suitable set of Sticker Books for her child.
Sometimes it’s not that children like sabotage, but that parents don’t guide them. In fact, as long as parents are good at using teaching aids, they can give full play to their children’s energy.
Sticker book is such a teaching aid. Sticker is a great game project that can be a parent-child companion.
So, how to choose the right sticker book?
- See the quality of the sticker
For children, stickers should be easy to tear off with a little skill, instead of spending a lot of effort to find the torn interface. This is very important.
Babies like to do it by themselves. They enjoy the process of “tearing” and “pasting”. However, if “tearing” becomes difficult due to quality problems, it will greatly damage the baby’s self-confidence. In this way, the baby’s interest in playing stickers will disappear.
The stickers should not only be easy to tear, but also the edges of the torn stickers should be smooth and tidy without affecting the beauty of the stickers.
As a sticker book, if the two most basic requirements of “tearing” and “pasting” cannot be met, is it still necessary to exist?
- Pay attention to the texture of printing
The paper texture of the sticker book should feel comfortable, the picture should be clean and tidy, and the color matching should be harmonious. Taken together, the whole book should have a sense of beauty.
If you look at a sticker book that is ugly, dirty and of poor quality, you don’t want to take it home.
There are so many Sticker Books on the market, and the price difference is not big. Why not choose one with good quality?
Those ugly and dirty Sticker Books may affect children’s aesthetics. Because children’s aesthetic ability is cultivated and accumulated bit by bit in life.
- Focus on the substance of the sticker book
This should be the most important. Many Sticker Books are marked with “thinking training”, “left and right brain development” and “advanced mathematics”. They sound very professional, tall and eye-catching. We can’t say that they are swaggering, because their content design is really a little professional.
However, it is also easy to mislead mothers to regard it as a book for learning and education. If this is the case, they will lose their original intention of playing with the sticker book.
Therefore, when choosing the sticker book, mothers should put aside these gimmicky slogans for the time being and choose the baby’s favorite, interesting, fun and interesting sticker book. Only by satisfying the children’s play first, can the mothers’ plot succeed.
Research has proved that only in a relaxed and pleasant environment and atmosphere can the brain absorb learning like a sponge, and all children’s learning is effective. This is why play is the most important way for children to learn.
Of the thousands of books I have represented, there are very few about which I can say it was an honor to be associated with them. On Killing by Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is one of a handful that occupies a very privileged place in my heart. That it was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize validates my contention that it is an extraordinarily significant work.
By the time Col. Grossman submitted his manuscript to me in the mid 1990s, the Viet Nam War, from which he had drawn so many poignant lessons for his research, had been ostensibly over for two decades. I say “ostensibly” because, for the traumatized veterans that he worked with as a combat psychologist, the war raged on in their tormented memories. Even as he comforted and helped heal countless men in veterans’ facilities, he was also asking questions of them that few had had the courage to ask, and formulating insights that enabled him to understand the experience of killing in ways that historians and social scientists had seldom grasped. I remember his telling me that killing was the last intimate act between humans that had not been explored scientifically. How odd, that an evil to which humankind has forever been exposed, should be a black hole in our understanding.
Out of his intensive studies, observations and interviews Grossman formulated a science he calls “Killology.” It’s a disturbing term but it pins us to his topic like a bayonet and forces us to gaze, eyes wide open, at an act that is both obscene and profane. Yet at the heart of his thesis is the contention that humans have an innate aversion to taking life. Given the sad history of our race that’s a large pill to swallow, but if you suspend skepticism and grant him this assumption your journey into the heart of darkness will be rewarded with a note of hope. Whether you are willing to extend to perpetrators a fraction of the sympathy that you extend to victims is a question only you will answer when you finish the book, but you will certainly appreciate the torment of men in war and war’s aftermath better than you do now.
What makes On Killing doubly significant is its extension of the experience of war to that of peace. Are children who are exposed to violent movies and video death-games more susceptible to murderous hostility? Are they stimulated to killing rage? Do they become more tolerant of mayhem?
Interview with Lt. Col. Dave Grossman by E-Reads
E-Reads: As you’ve grown older and wiser, have you modified your views about the nature of killing? About human nature?
DG: No, not really. I’ve expanded the model a little, and have placed that in my latest book, On Combat.
E-Reads: In your dealings with veterans of Afghanistan and Iraq, is there a material difference between the nature of their stress and the stresses suffered by Vietnam veterans?
DG: Today we are rotating units into combat (as opposed to individual replacements in Vietnam) and they are all wartime volunteers. They enlisted or reenlisted in time of war. This makes for a significant reduction in psychological trauma and incidence of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).
E-Reads: You tour extensively. Who is your main audience? What are some of the most often-asked questions?
DG: Roughly 50% of my audiences are law enforcement. Another 30% are military units, and 20% educators.
The most commonly asked questions revolve around the incidence of PTSD in Iraq and Afghanistan. My best answer to that is in the 2nd edition to On Combat, which was released just this year. I’ve included a clip from On Combat (below) that addresses this issue.
“Sadly, it is not difficult to find people in the mental health community to support the thesis that anyone who kills, experiences combat, or witnesses violence (or any other fill-in-the-blank ‘victim du jour’) is doomed to lifelong PTSD and, consequently, needs lifelong mental health care. Too few mental health professionals communicate to their patients that 1) they can recover quickly from PTSD and that 2) they will become stronger from the experience. Yet that expectation must be there if there is to be hope of anything other than a lifetime of expensive counseling.
PTSD is like being overweight. Many people carry around 10, 20, or 30 pounds of excess weight. Although it influences the individual every minute of every day, it might not be a big deal health wise. But for those people who are 500 pounds overweight, it will likely kill them any day now. There was a time when we could only identify people who had “500 pounds” of PTSD. Today we are better at spotting folks who carry lesser loads, 30, 40 or 50 pounds of PTSD.
I have read statistics that say 15 percent of our military is coming home with “some manifestation of psychological problems.” Others claim it is 20 percent and still others report 30 percent. Well, depending on how you want to measure it, 30 percent of all college freshmen have some manifestation of psychological problems. Mostly what is being reported on today are people with low levels of PTSD (30, 40 or 50 pounds of PTSD) who in previous wars would not have been detected. We are getting damned good at identifying and treating PTSD and, when the treatment is done, most people are better for the experience.
PTSD is not like frostbite. Frostbite causes permanent damage to your body. If you get frostbite, for the rest of your life you will be more vulnerable to it. PTSD is not like that.
PTSD can be more like the flu. The flu can seriously kick your tail for a while. But once you shake it off, you probably are not going to get it again for the rest of the year. You have been inoculated. PTSD can kick your tail for a while (months and even years). But once you have dealt with it, next time it will take a lot more to knock you off your feet because you have been stress inoculated.”
E-Reads: Do you feel your approach to killing has had a positive effect on our understanding of human behavior? Do you think human nature can be changed for the better?
DG: I don’t think that our basic, underlying, innate nature can change much, but we can do a better job of warning and preparing people. And my books, On Killing and On Combat have proven themselves to be very valuable resources to help warn and prepare or GIs and their families.
On Killing and On Combat are both on the USMC Commandant’s Required Reading list. (I think I’m the only author to have two books on the list.) Both books are also required reading at West Point and many other military and law enforcement academies. We have been at war for 6 years now, and we have learned a lot. All nonessential ideas and material have been jettisoned in the unforgiving ‘acid test’ of war. For these books to still be held up as required reading indicates that that they have something valuable and timeless to contribute, and it is a good feeling to be of service.
Perhaps most important of all, On Killing‘s final section (on media violence) has been supported with important new research. Sadly, that section has been validated by many tragic incidents of juvenile mass murders in the school.
Lt. Col. Grossman continues the research that let to the writing of On Killing, does regular public speaking engagements on the subject and maintains a website, Killology Research Group, which constantly adds new information on the topic.
There’s a lot of e-book buzz about Jeff Gomez and his new book, Print Is Dead. From the introduction to Print Is Dead:
“While print is not yet dead, it is undoubtedly sickening. Newspaper readership has been in decline for years, magazines are also in trouble, and trade publishing (the selling of novels and non-fiction books to adults primarily for entertainment), has not seen any substantial growth for years. More and more people are turning away from traditional methods of reading, turning instead to their computers and the Internet for information and entertainment. Whether this comes in the form of getting news online, reading a blog, or contributing to a wiki, the general population is shifting away from print consumption, heading instead to increasingly digital lives.”
I may be an e-book evangelist but I wouldn’t dream of saying print is dead. For now and the foreseeable future the handheld reader of choice is called the book. Or p-book (p for print) as opposed to e-book. Or, as some refer to it, “book-book” to distinguish it from virtual versions. For all our valiant endeavors to produce an electronic reader, nothing matches the elegant form and functionality of the printed book. E-Reads’ sales confirm it: despite the ease of downloading our titles, fifty percent of our revenue comes from the sale of print copies.
What is dead is the old way of distributing books, in mechanical vehicles to brick and mortar vendors. Bookstores, even the fabulous giant Barnes & Noble chain, are dead stores walking. The day that the print on demand press was introduced (summer of 1998), the bookstore beast took a shot to the gut. Boast though they may about sales B&N and other book chains are mortally wounded and it’s just a matter of time before they hemorrhage to death. The good news? Before you can say Rest in Peace, a new, healthier, more profitable and infinitely more efficient distribution model will take its place. I’m happy to say I prophesized it in 1992. Nobody listened then. Maybe they’ll listen now.